Sexual escapades, a weekend at a hotel, vacations in an exotic place, a romantic dinner in a fabulous restaurant can all add spark to our libido. However, you don’t have to leave your house to find sexual treasures that will add excitement to your sex life. If you’ve fallen victim to boredom and are thinking about how to spice up your sex life, here are some suggestions of things you can do to turn your home into a sex shrine.
- Sensual or Erotic Massage: A fun and very accessible way to increase your sexual arousal is to engage in a sensual or erotic massage. The goal of a sensual massage is to give and receive pleasure. And better yet, you don’t need to leave your house and spend any money to receive a sensual massage. Moreover, the boundaries of therapeutic massage do not apply, so there is freedom to touch and expose the body as the giver and receiver please. A sensual massage can help you build your arousal and achieve higher levels of sexual enjoyment.
My boyfriend is the best when it comes to giving massages. I am very lucky to have his gifted hands. He makes me relax, massages me in all the right places, and after oiling me up and working every muscle in my body for a good period of time that feels like hours to me, I am fully relaxed. He later takes advantage and turns the massage into an erotic experience that ends with a passionate lovemaking session. I don’t need any more gifts. —Lucía A., San Juan, Puerto Rico
- Sex Games: Sex games are a fun way to add spark to your sex life. There are many games options online or available on sex stores. However, you don’t have to go out of your way to play a fun game. A steamy version of Truth or Dare between you and your partner or borrowing the Twister game from your children can yield to very sexy results. You can also make up your own game with some creativity. Make sure to incorporate some sexy consequences for winning and losing.
That Twister game can be very sexy! I borrow it from the kids and my husband and I lock each other in the bedroom to play it. It makes us laugh and usually we end up having hot sex after playing it for just a few minutes. —Mariana C., San Diego, CA
- A Sex Date: As parents, especially mothers, we tend to put our children’s needs first at all times. However, a balanced and happy mother will serve your children better. If you are married, putting your spouse first (yes, you read that right!) will ensure that your relationship is stable, solid, strong, and able to withstand the challenges of raising a family. Make time for sex, make sex dates with your partner, and make sex and spending time with your partner a priority. If you are a single parent, make time to explore and pleasure yourself through masturbation or test the waters of dating again.
One of the best gifts my husband has given me is to send the kids to his parents’ house for the weekend to spend a weekend in bed. We rest, love, laugh, order take out, and have lots of sex! Usually, we are happier, more relaxed, and more bonded when we pick up the kids. It is a simple gift and doesn’t cost us a dime. But it is one of the gifts that both he and I enjoy the most. —Linda P., Denver, CO
- Try Something New: Take your sex life to a new level. Ask your partner to surprise you with a new sex technique, take your partner to a spot in the house in which you have never had sex before or try masturbating while taking a bath if you haven’t done so before. The possibilities are endless. Just a little imagination can go a long way to improve your sex life and add some spark to an ordinary day or a special day.
- Dine In: We already know that food can do wonders for your sex life. Moreover, chocolate is not only a favorite among sweets lovers, it is also a sexual enhancer. But think outside the box: melt that chocolate and have your partner eat it off of an interesting place in your body (after cooling it down a little, of course) and do the same for you partner. Or prompt your partner to eat that dessert off of your preferred body part and vice-versa. Just one bite can be the start of a steamy sex session.
You don’t have to travel or go far to find ways to make your sex feel revived and anew. Look at your surroundings and use your imagination to create your next sexcapade. Also, remember to use your words and ask for what you want. You may actually get it!
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